It’s Time To Leave The Nest

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  1. Make a list of things to be excited about when it comes to moving out on your own. Yes, my number one piece of advice is making a list. No, you shouldn’t be surprised. This list can have anything on it — from serious to aspirational, silly to practical — get creative!
  2. Find new local haunts. Look into coffee shops, gyms, yoga studios, bookstores, diners, libraries, whatever — find places nearby where you can start spending more time. This has the added bonus of giving you plenty of opportunities to build new relationships.
  3. Be gentle with yourself. Don’t expect it to be super easy right off the bat, but don’t overthink and naysay it, either. Losing friendships really, really sucks. I’m not gonna sugarcoat it. It’s hard, and sad, and lonely, and a myriad of other emotions. But that’s okay. Your grief is a reflection of the importance of those relationships. If you weren’t upset, I’d be worried.
  4. Reflect and grow. Use these moments to reflect on your own behavior and the behavior of others. How do you want to show up for people in your life? How do you want people to show up in yours? What values do you want to cultivate in your friendships? Now is the time to take stock of what you’ve learned and make an action plan for moving forward.

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The advice column no one asked for* from Denver-based queer, biracial writer & educator Whitney Gaines. (*for which no one asked)

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Whitney Gaines

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The advice column no one asked for* from Denver-based queer, biracial writer & educator Whitney Gaines. (*for which no one asked)

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